If your mornings or evenings are a bit topsy-turvy, we'd suggest using a routine chart. Weekends or the holidays are a great time to discuss these with your child and get them in place.
An important note: Before you begin – check-in on your expectations, and make sure they’re set at the right level. Four year olds won’t be able to do up their shoelaces. Buttons could still be quite tricky. And beds will NEVER be as neat as you do them! Whether they’re learning something new, having a go, trying to help or doing something well, it all counts.
If the old ‘praise and stickers’ approach just isn’t cutting the mustard, you may like to introduce a rewards system to boost engagement.
Rewards could be gained after a week of consistent effort or a certain number of ticks or stickers.
Let them choose from a range of low cost rewards, such as:
Eventually, you may find you don’t need your daily chart. Hurrah!!
Or, more likely, you’ll find you don’t need it for a while, then suddenly… you do again! Don’t panic. This is very normal. Even as adults we sometimes get busy, forget to do stuff, and need revert to those good ol’ to-do lists.
Check out the free parenting courses available in your local area. You could start by seeing what Incredible Years has on offer. Their courses are run by the Ministry of Education and are free throughout New Zealand. For those living in Canterbury, we have an online course guide – and there are many courses available.
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