The teenage (and tween-age!) years are times of great change. There’s a lot going on. From new schools and new friends, to new responsibilities, pressures and expectations.
Having a predictable routine and daily things to ‘accomplish’ can help kids of all ages feel more grounded, secure and happy. Routine charts are also a great way to help our kids take responsibility for parts of their day, and feel good about it! Win, Win, Win!
We’d suggest ‘trying out’ the daily chart for a week, then reviewing it. That way you can both tweak it as you need to – there’s nothing worse than feeling like you’ve failed the first time around.
On that note, notch up the encouragement! Praise them for trying this out (even if adjustments need to be made), praise them when you see them doing an activity, looking at or completing their chart, and anything else you can think of! Let them know how much you appreciate their help. As well as boosting your relationship, being kind is great for your wellbeing too. And a vital note: If you lose interest, they will as well!
As you’ve probably discovered, tweens and teens are incredibly talented at asking: ‘What’s in it for me?’ So be prepared! What no (or low) cost rewards could you offer? What might appeal to them? We recommend they choose from a list you provide, adding a new item or two over time, as agreed by you.
Your list might include:
Where you can, be positive, interested and encouraging – supporting their efforts as much as the results. Nope… they won’t do things to the same standard you might, or in the order you would. And yes… they’re likely to forget things, skip things and not always get it right. (Hell, who does!)
Rather than focus on the slips, help them regroup and get back into it. It’s a great chance to teach them perseverance and that ongoing effort is more important than obsessing with perfection.
You might also like to check out our tips for helping younger kids embrace daily routines.
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